While what goes on in the bedroom isn't the most important aspect of a relationship, it's still pretty darn important. Keeping it spicy in the bedroom can help a couple stay better connected in other rooms throughout the house as well. Fortunately, this isn't hard to do, there are many ways to spice up the bedroom. A healthy, intimate relationship makes a great foundation to build upon. It's also a lot of fun. Read on and learn how to keep it hot, sexy, and fun.

Turn the bedroom into an oasis

Make the bedroom a stress free zone. Turn it into a place where you and your partner feel good. Make it a no-electronics zone. People these days are so connected to the outside world that force of habit may make one check their cell phone when all of their attention should be on their partner.

Get creative, use your imagination to come up with ways to surprise one another. Not every surprise has to be sexy. Romantic, and thoughtful surprises are just as wonderful.

Light candles, use luxurious sheets, go all out to make this room a romantic place. It's kind of hard to feel sexy when there are toys on the bed, clutter on the floor, and reminders of bills, and other unpleasant things strewn around. Keep that stuff in other areas of the house. The bedroom should be a couple's happy place.

Let go  

Let preconceived ideas go. As two consenting adults, it's perfectly fine to try new things. If your partner wants to try something and you're not so sure about it, as long as it's safe, give it a try,or at least agree to think about it.

Discuss your fantasies. Some may not be feasible, or something that you even really want to do, but talking about them can be a huge turn-on. No matter, never make the other person feel ashamed or bad about their fantasy.

Both people in the relationship should feel free to share without worry. You never know, something you might not have thought of could end up being something that you enjoy.

Take it out of the bedroom

One way to spice up the bedroom is to take romance outside of the bedroom. Take it to the living room, or even the kitchen. A new place is often a great way to boost the hotness factor.

There are plenty of places where you can tease, and touch one another. Get adventurous, get creative, but of course, you want to stay out of jail, so don't get too open out in public.

Text one another

Technology does have it's place when a couple is trying to spice things up. Make it a point to text one another throughout the day, on occasion. On these days avoid texts about dripping faucets, socks left on the floor, and a child being sent to the principal's office.

Instead focus on a mixture of sexy, and romantic texts. Tell him what you'd like to be doing to him, tell her how wonderful she makes you feel. Keep the texts coming, and by the time you both get home at the end of the day you'll be so turned on that you'll race to the bedroom. If you get that far, you may just barely make it inside the door.

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Sexy surprises

Break normal day to day routine and make it a point to give one another sexy surprises. Let him know that you're not wearing panties during a shopping trip. Liven up a boring dinner by whispering sexy words to her. Show up at his office for a quick lunchtime romp.

Don't forget to lock the office door, or the walk back out could be a bit awkward. Also be sure to wear something loose and easy to put on and take off. Get creative, use your imagination to come up with ways to surprise one another.

Not every surprise has to be sexy. Romantic, and thoughtful surprises are just as wonderful. Start her car on a cold morning, brush the snow off his car window while he's in the shower.

While these surprises may not seem like ways to spice up the bedroom, they actually will do just that. When you're kind to one another, it does a lot to elevate one's sex life.

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Be someone else

Many couples enjoy role playing. This lets each person by someone else. The quiet, reserved person, can turn into a wild temptress. The shy, conservative guy can break out of his shell. Visit a bar that you don't normally frequent, let one person enter first.

You never know, something you might not have thought of could end up being something that you enjoy.

After several minutes the other person can go in and try out their pickup lines and skills on their partner. Stick with the role and pretend that you don't know one another. If you both do it right, and change your ways, it will seem like you really don't know one another. Picking up this stranger can be a lot of fun, and super sexy.

Build up your toy collection

Toys aren't just for kids. There are tons of adult toys that are lots of fun. Build up your toy collection. Make it a point to try new toys on one another. Get a tote with a lock if you're afraid of someone finding them, make this your very own adult toy box.

Toys are a wonderful way to enhance intimacy. Trying new things helps spice up a relationship. Don't forget to add lubes, lotions, and a blindfold to the toy box.

Give up control

Take turns giving up control in the bedroom. Be at her mercy one night, and she'll be at your mercy another night. Giving up control can be a lot of fun, and it's very freeing. At first it may seem a bit weird to both partners, but, once you both relish how wonderful it feels to let someone else be in control, it's something that you might just find that you love.

Keep in mind that even though, you're giving up control this time, the next time you get to make the rules. After a while, one partner may discover that they like giving up control more than they like taking control, this is something that you can both talk about and incorporate into your love making.

Start with romance

Have some appetizers and wine, put on soft music and dance. Just be sure to keep the appetizers light. Feeling heavy, and bloated puts a damper on bedroom fun. Too much wine will as well. A glass or two may help to relax you and put you in the mood.

Too many glasses can get you drunk, and drunk is never sexy. Hold on another close as you dance, whisper sweet, or sexy things to one another. You'll be in the mood before you know it.

Get aggressive

Surprise your partner by being aggressive as soon as they enter the room. Speak your mind, say what you want, do what you want. Let them know exactly what's in store for them.

This is especially fun if you're not usually this way. If you're usually reserved and wait for what you want, this will be a fun session that will have you both feeling hot.

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Be the director

Even super, close couples can have trouble directing their partner on how to make them feel good. This is actually quite sad. Imagine having to eat a meal that you just don't like over, and over again for years, and years. Wouldn't it make more sense to say something like " You're a great cook, babe, but I really don't like spinach souffle, though I do appreciate all the effort that goes into making it".

Toys are a wonderful way to enhance intimacy. Trying new things helps spice up a relationship. Don't forget to add lubes, lotions, and a blindfold to the toy box.

In the same way, you can easily tell your partner that you love their touch, but a lighter touch here, or a heavier touch there would be even more amazing. If you feel funny saying the words, direct without words, guide hands, toys, and lips to where you want them. You'll both be happier when you're more in tune with one another.

Take your time

While a quickie is great once in a while, it's not a good recipe for everyday use. Take your time. If you don't have time to do it right, put it off until later. In the meantime, tease one another to keep the amorous mood going.

When you do finally make it to the bedroom, take your time as you like, touch, and tease one another. Foreplay is important, always keep this in mind.

Visit a strip club

If your man enjoys a gentleman's club from time to time, join him. You may just find that it's not as bad in there as you think. He'll appreciate the fact that you were open to trying something new with him. Try to relax and have fun, you might even enjoy it.

It's kind of hard to feel sexy when there are toys on the bed, clutter on the floor, and reminders of bills, and other unpleasant things strewn around.

Remember, he's coming home with you. To be fair, he should also try something that you like. If he's been resistant to joining in on an activity that you enjoy, this may just sway his decision, and make him more receptive.

Even if it doesn't, you'll be doing something new together by visiting the club, and the excitement of it will result in extra spice in the bedroom.

Strip for one another

Whether you visit a strip club together or not, you can both learn to strip for one another. If you don't have a clue as to how to start, consider getting a video to watch. There are many with clear instructions as to how to strip.

Make it sexy, and have fun. Don't be self conscious, your partner will love it. You might just enjoy it too once you get into it and see the reaction that you're getting from your partner.

While not every tip above will work for every couple, try the ones that you're comfortable with. If you're not used to trying new things, start with the one that's easiest for you, and as you progress try others.

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With so many ways to add spice to the bedroom, you're bound to find some that work for your relationship. It's important to put in the effort to keep things fun, and interesting. This is especially important for long term relationships.

The longer a couple is together, the easier it is to lose that spark. Keep the spark going by trying new, and exciting things. It's really not hard to do, not only is it easy, but, it's also a lot of fun.

Remember, relationships don't have to get stale. Some couples think that this is inevitable. While, it may be common, it's not something that has to happen. The secret is to keep trying, keep things fresh, new, and interesting.

Making the effort for one another is one of the best things that you can do to keep a relationship going. You're also likely to be rewarded with some of the most amazing orgasms ever, and that's always a great thing.