Introduction

It is normal for wives to worry that their husbands don't love them. Women who are wondering about that should know that just the fact that they are asking the question does not automatically mean that they are right to ask this question.

However, it is still a good idea for women to be able to distinguish between the genuine signs that their spouses have fallen out of love with them and the factors that could really be signs of many different things. Women should also remember that they should not be ashamed of their feelings one way or another. They just need to properly evaluate the situation.

1. Their husbands are cheating on them

The way a couple copes with adultery is a huge test of their love and commitment to one another. A lot of marriages never survive something like that. Many women will ask: does my husband love me if he cheats? The messy truth is that he might, or he might not. There can be many reasons why people of all genders cheat.

If he expresses no interest in anything you say or anything you do, it is an extreme warning sign that he doesn't love you.

In some cases, husbands will cheat without really thinking about it, in an act of impulsive lust. Impulsive lust can happen to the best of us, and it usually isn't going to say much about the strength of anyone's long-term commitment. Some people, however, will specifically cheat in order to hurt their partners. In other cases, people cheat because they themselves are feeling unloved, and they're looking for validation from other people.

Husbands who cheat once, apologize, admit what happened, and never do it again may have been suffering a temporary setback. You should be asking 'does my husband love me' if he is a serial adulterer, especially if he actually seems to revel in hurting you.

2. Their husbands ignore them

Lots of wives will ask themselves: does my husband love me if he ignores me? It usually depends upon the situations in which he ignores you and for how long. If he is ignoring you when you're just talking about some random household thing or something else that's fairly trivial, it usually isn't a sign of anything even if he does it a lot.

If he's ignoring you when you're going through a very severe emotional crisis and he is still refusing to give you the emotional support you need, it might mean that he doesn't love you. If you tell him that it bothers you that he is refusing to give you the support that you need, and he continues to fail to do so even after the discussion, it really is a severe warning sign.

It is also important to pay attention to what he is paying attention to, assuming that there are any examples. If he doesn't pay attention to anything that isn't about him in some way, that's another severe warning sign.

Everyone gets distracted some times. People will need their own levels of emotional support from their spouses, and they are not always available to provide emotional support. However, spouses that never seem to be available and who ignore nearly everything that isn't directly about them may have fallen out of love with their partners.

[irp]

You can watch this short video from Ada Livvy who literally talk about everything from trending topics (celebrities!), relationship advices and more.

4. Their husbands seem like they're using them

Here is one of the saddest questions of all: does my husband love me or is he using me? This one is more abstract than most, which is just going to make many women feel that much more insecure. Since all human relationships at least have a subtle element of pragmatism to them, the line between using someone and loving someone can be frustratingly vague.

In some cases, husbands will cheat without really thinking about it, in an act of impulsive lust. Impulsive lust can happen to the best of us, and it usually isn't going to say much about the strength of anyone's long-term commitment.

Overall, your husband might be using you if he does not seem to actually like anything about you or your personality. If he expresses no interest in anything you say or anything you do, it is an extreme warning sign that he doesn't love you.

Some husbands are more or less using their wives as a source of household labor that's free. Other husbands are basically using their wives for sex. Wives do still perform the majority of household chores, so husbands do benefit from marriage in a way that many wives do not.

If he is ignoring you when you're just talking about some random household thing or something else that's fairly trivial, it usually isn't a sign of anything even if he does it a lot.

Misogynistic men more or less believe that using women is all right, and that men staying with their wives for the sake of unpaid housework and sex is a normal marriage. Wives who know that their husbands think this way should take note. They should also note that this is not, by any means, a normal part of marriage or a healthy or normal way to see the world.

If your husband actually seems to like you and your personality and enjoys spending time with you in a way that has nothing to do with sex or anything else tangible, the love may be real. Otherwise, women should be concerned that they are being used, especially if they find themselves getting treated like maids or concubines.

[irp]