If you understand how the male thinks, you have the advantage in the battle of the sexes. First off, men are hunters and it is hardwired into their nervous systems. 50,000 years worth of programming is there for you to use if you know what to do.

So, to get him interested you need to first attract his attention. This means going where he is and choosing the time and venue carefully. You don't want to attract him in the middle of the playoffs at his favorite sports bar and grill.

Find a perfect time

Finding a time when he is relaxed and not keyed up is best. This will then give you the best opportunity. A drink after work, corporate get-togethers, and going to where his favorite hobby is or activity are all good chances to arouse his interest.

Life is short and you need to have as much fun in today's world and if you do this you'll find your man will stay around just to see what's next and what you have in store for the future.

Even a club under the right circumstances as in a quiet evening when a good band is playing is often the best opportunity to make the initial contact. Once you've chosen the time and venue.

Dress Up

Dress up and look your best. Most of a man's internal systems are cued off visual stimuli. So dress to attract.

This does not mean looking like something out of a Victoria Secret catalog. Instead, dress to accentuate your best points. Jewels, bracelets, and necklaces that glitter, catch, and reflect the light work to your advantage as they will catch the flash and instinctively look to see what is causing it.

Body language

Now that you have caught his eye, body language is your second weapon that works on his subconscious mind. When he looks at you smile. This is the first step in establishing rapport with him. Make sure your hands are open and not clenched.

In fact, relax your body this is a sign of confidence and self-assurance. Playing with your hair is an unconscious preening gesture and men are wired to pick up on this.

Sex is something to be shared between two people in a committed relationship and not to be bandied about like a soccer ball during a match where the goal is what counts.

When sitting and your legs are crossed, point your toe of your shoe and the knee toward him. Sit up and turn your body toward him as well.

Some would say thrust out your assets; however, this is not necessary and is overdoing it. Instead, present a picture of openness and confidence is a better lure than open sexuality.

Eye Contact

If he smiles back in response to you smile, you can next nod your head slightly and make eye contact. This is an invitation and an indication it's ok for him to approach you. Believe it or not, men are afraid of rejection and you almost have to wear a sign with lights saying it's ok to talk to me.

BTW, what we've covered so far is what men who read those seduction books look for. But they are assuming a subconscious series of responses. You are doing in intentionally, which puts you in control of who gets the right signals and who doesn't. Men don't seem to get it, that a woman can use her body language on purpose.

When he approaches, you can decide if you really want to continue with conversation and to do this touch is a surefire attractor. Picking lint off his clothing is a grooming gesture and shows you are interested and he will attempt to reciprocate at this point many men will attempt to seduce you and use contact to entice you to leave the venue you are at with them.

Cheerful and happy messages are best, especially if the day is going rough for him. Click To Tweet

We are assuming this is not your goal. So, understand the male will try for sex and that's what they are hardwired for. You have to have better control than that and while not becoming an iceberg, but something that is worth pursuing.

Again, this relies on their hunting instincts and once they are interested they will pursue automatically. But remember they have a different agenda and you have to stick to yours instead.

We have 5 "How To" areas in which to capture and keep his interest and you can see how to make sure your relationship is going in the direction you want it to.

How to keep a guy interested in you

Once you've got their attention is necessary to keep it. Men like to talk about themselves and, of course, brag a bit. Here following the active listening model will do more than all the lingerie in the world.

Show interest in his career and hobbies.

Maintain eye contact and nod or make agreeing sounds. Ask questions from time to time. One that comes to mind will keep a man busy for hours are just to ask them what they do for a living. Once they tell you what it is. Make a comment like, "I know nothing about that, would you tell me more?"

Be prepared to get an earful. This is one tactic that award-winning journalists use when interviewing high profile personalities. Remember you may be an expert in your male friend's area of expertise. But the goal is building rapport and making him comfortable and to open up. Men want to be admired and their career is the equivalent of a Viking telling of the battles he has one.

Sexual messages should be avoided until you are deeper into your relationship as remember whatever your text can be seen by many, one way or another. So, keep it clean and above board.

Men today are disenfranchised today and they aren't supposed to fit the John Wayne image anymore. Whether is society or whatever the days of the adventurer or hero seem to be over. The only thing a man has, is his job and that often defines him.

If he feels he can trust you and you really care enough to listen then you will go up on his list of permanent relationships. Because this is a key element in a man's psyche.

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You can watch this short video from gpsforlove.com about keep a guy interested.

How to keep a guy interested after the first date

After you meet a man and you go on the first date remember to use scent in your arsenal of female attraction. Men are hunters and scent next to visual stimulation is the fastest thing to arouse his interest.

Dress up and look your best. Most of a man's internal systems are cued off visual stimuli. So dress to attract.

You don't even have to buy an expensive perfume of pheromone-laden musk. Believe it or not, natural scents work the best Sandalwood, other herbal scents work well, and two secrets that perfume companies wouldn't tell you is that apple blossom and vanilla are two of the most arousing scents to a man.

Remember whatever scent you use, put it on your pulse points. That means wherever you can feel your heartbeat, which is where the scent should go. Neck, wrists, behind the ears, and the knees are most often where to place your scent of choice.

The right scent and a man will fall in love with you and he'll want to see you again. You can also make him come back for more if you take a leaf from Scheherazade and use story and hints to keep him coming back again and again.

Mystery and scent are two of the most exciting ways to keep up the interest of a male. Being interesting and have interests similar to his also ensure you get on his speed dial, as men want to share their victories and triumphs. If you are his biggest fan, he will include you in his activities.

How to keep a guy interested through text

Today texting is a unique way of keeping a guy interested. This does not mean coming off like an insecure person wanting to find out what he is doing every minute of the day.

Entice him with tidbits of trivia, things related to his job, career, and hobbies. Hobbies are the best ways to keep his interest, as hobbies are easier to share than work related activities. So if you find tidbits related to his hobby send a short text.

Tease him offer up riddles and jokes. But don't do it too often. Perhaps after he's gotten to work a little message to let him know you are thinking about him. Many men feel pressured if a woman texts him frequently or continuously.

Men are not as socially oriented as you are. They don't stay jacked in at all times to their cell phones. You may live on your social media, but most men find it boring to text and be texted to.

After you meet a man and you go on the first date remember to use scent in your arsenal of female attraction. Men are hunters and scent next to visual stimulation is the fastest thing to arouse his interest.

Sexual messages should be avoided until you are deeper into your relationship as remember whatever your text can be seen by many, one way or another. So, keep it clean and above board.

Cheerful and happy messages are best, especially if the day is going rough for him.

How to keep a guy interested without sex

Remember a man wants sex. But if you attract him and keep up his interest in other areas, such as being witty, charming, and intelligent he will forego sex until the proper time you choose.

You are building rapport for a long-term relationship and giving into sex too soon takes away your mystery and mystique. So you need to learn to be alluring with voice, gesture, body language, and with your words.

Affection and feelings need to be expressed and reciprocated before you proceed to any deeper relations. Be there for him and be his sounding board for his ideas, dreams, and become an indispensable part of his life, he will commit and stick around.

If he feels he can trust you and you really care enough to listen then you will go up on his list of permanent relationships.

Sex is something to be shared between two people in a committed relationship and not to be bandied about like a soccer ball during a match where the goal is what counts.

This, by the way, is how men sometimes look at relationships and sex, many regard sex as a game that they rack up points and compare themselves with other men.

You don't want to be a notch on a belt or a conquest to be savored once and then abandoned for the next. This is why you keep his interest and attention focused on where you want, rather where he is trying to lead you. So you want to make sure he is interested in the complete meal and not just dessert.

How to keep a guy interested in you forever

The bottom line is that enticement, wit, charm, and a good head on your shoulders will do more to keep a man interested that a whole closet full of sexy nightgowns.

When sitting and your legs are crossed, point your toe of your shoe and the knee toward him. Sit up and turn your body toward him as well.

Body language, showing interest in his life, career and sharing it with him goes much farther than you might expect and before too long he'll be with you in a permanent relationship and you can then make further plans for what you both want out of life.

Remember scent is the real way to a man's heart, though a delicious meal cooked can get you there as well. Keep yourself interesting and develop interests you can share with him always find new ways to tease and play.

Life is short and you need to have as much fun in today's world and if you do this you'll find your man will stay around just to see what's next and what you have in store for the future.

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