When you browse through many self-help book shelves, you realize that 3/4 of those books talk about how to save one's marriage. But whereas healing ailing marriage relationships is something that everyone wants to find answers to, sometimes it's helpful to learn how to read the early signs of a divorce so you're not caught off-guard.

You see, every couple out there is different. But there are some universal truths that bind every couple on this planet together. A good scenario is where both couples refuse to do something so they can save their marriage. In that case, that union will collapse.

The ticking of the clock marking the end of one's marriage becomes apparent when one spouse puts problems in the open and nothing is being done. The more time elapses without any effort being made to address the situation, the more likely the two will not stay together.

So if you're currently in a shaky marriage relationship and you're just wondering whether the signs you're seeing are likely to lead to a divorce, the following points will answer your doubts on how to know when your marriage is over.

1. You're not ''coupled'' anymore

When you realize that you're not connected to each other like you used to be when you first started living together, it may signify the on-set of problems with your marriage.

Couples gradually distance themselves from their respective spouses because they feel they no longer value time spent together. Instead, these couples prefer spending time with friends off-line or on-line.

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To cut the long story short, if you feel a certain relief coming into you when your spouse is not near you, this is a good sign that you're disengaged.

2. The unwillingness of one party to try

Marriages end up being affected with damaging, insurmountable problems every other day. Some typical problems affecting marriages today include infidelity, long sexual drought and so on.

According to the author of Project Happily Ever After, Alisa Bowman, if one spouse consistently points out problems than need to be remedied yet the other party is not always willing to listen, that marriage is headed nowhere.

One partner can not always try on his or her own to solve the problem. And if this goes for a year without anything happening, then it's a sign that the marriage will break apart.

3. No respect for each other

Marriages are built on mutually respecting each other. If this aspect is gone, either you or your spouse will begin feeling neglected or dismissed while the other partner seems not bothered at all.

If a marriage has reached this level, it's considered a toxic union that's not going anywhere. If all discourse is always marked with attacking and defending without the urge to rectify, this is a good sign that your marriage is ending.

4. You are not a team anymore

In most healthy marriages, couples work together from bringing up the kids, to taking care of the household, supporting one another through career and personal ambitions or challenges etc.

But if you realize that you're now working in a different orbit from your spouse, it's a good sign that this teamwork was long broken apart. It will give you a hint on where you're headed.

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5. An ex-lover maintained as a friend

Infidelity is always the elephant in the room. It troubles marriages every other day. Ending an adulterous affair is not always enough. If fact, if one spouse is still maintaining friendship with their former lover no matter how big they talk about the innocence of that friendship, nothing good will come out of it.

One partner can not always try on his or her own to solve the problem. And if this goes for a year without anything happening, then it's a sign that the marriage will break apart.

This is a tell tale sign that your spouse is cheating on you and is not willing to remedy the problem. You cannot accept this to go on for so long, because whether you like it or not, your marriage will hit the dreaded breaking point.

6. No one is willing to compromise

One aspect of a healthy marriage highlights the fact that spouses must try to fulfill the needs of their partners while also making sure theirs are met. This is never easy as it involves a lifelong give and take commitment. It requires constant communication to get it right.

But if you have a partner who is not always willing to pay attention to your needs, whether that is time, affection, sexual contact, chores, help with bringing up children and so on, this should tell you that your marriage is nearing the horizon of trouble.

And if they somehow refuse to share their own needs, then it means you're not in the same boat, even though you're still living under one roof. It's time to get prepared for the worst.

7. They are a serial cheater

This point mostly applies to men. Some men seem to be naturally wired to be serial cheaters. They are unable to maintain a monogamous life no matter how hard they try and even if they seem to have had the intention of getting married.

When you realize that you're not connected to each other like you used to be when you first started living together, it may signify the on-set of problems with your marriage.

When confronted, they put their philandering blame on their wives, telling them how they are controlling and jealous of the fact that they are hanging out with ''friends''.

Some marriage problems are recovered through apologies, regrets and counseling. However, when it comes to a serial cheater, that's something you can never fix no matter how hard you tried. Eventually, your marriage will never go anywhere.

Conclusion

A combination of what we've discussed above can always lead you to the right direction. Watch out for lack of communication, consistent infidelity, mistrust, and unwilling to solve problems. Gauge these traits for a long term period and you will have a clear picture of where your marriage is headed.